Parent/Coach Relationship

Communication You Should Expect from Your Student-Athlete’s Coach
You should expect the following information from the coach:

1.  Philosophy of the coach.

2.  Expectations the coach has for your child as well as all the players.

3.  Locations and times of all practices and contests.

4.  Team requirements; i.e. fees, special equipment, off-season conditioning, fund raising, etc.

5.  Procedures should your child be injured during participation.

6.  Discipline that results in the denial of your child’s participation. Hierarchy of discipline.

7.  Cutting process.

Communication Coaches Expect Directly from Parents

1.   Notification well in advance of any schedule conflicts.

2.  Specific concerns in regard to a coach’s philosophy and/or expectations, before the season.

Appropriate Concerns to Discuss with Coaches

1.  What the expectations are for your student-athlete during practices and games.

2.  Ways to help your student-athlete improve.

3.  Academic support and college opportunities.

Inappropriate Issues to Discuss with Coaches
1.  Playing time and team strategy. It is often difficult to accept your student-athlete not playing as much as you may hope. Coaches are professionals. They make decisions based on what they believe to be best for all student-athletes involved.
2.  Play calling.
3.  Other student-athlete athletes.
4.  Personal opinions about the coach.

Procedure for Discussing Appropriate Concerns with a Coach

Some situations might require a conference between the coach and the parent. These conferences are to encouraged. It is important that both parties involved have a clear understanding of the other’s position. When these conferences are necessary, the following procedure should be used to help promote a resolution of the issue:

1.  Call the coach or have your student-athlete speak with the coach directly.

2.  Do not attempt to confront a coach before or after a contest or practice. These can be emotional times for both the parent and the coach. Meetings of this nature do not promote resolution.

3.  Use the 24-hour rule. Wait to discuss a situation with at coach until 24 hours after the contest.

What to Do If The Meeting with the Coach Did Not Provide Satisfactory Resolution?
Resolution should proceed in the following order: 
1.  Call the head coach of the program and meet to discuss the situation.  If not resolved then . . .
2.  Call the athletic director to discuss the situation.  If not resolved then . . .
3.  Call the principal to discuss the situation.  If not resolved then . . .
4.  Call the District Ombudsman at 994-2240.  If not resolved then . . .
5.  Call the director of secondary education to discuss the situation.  If not resolved then . . .
6.  Call the superintendent of schools to discuss the situation.